Can You Fall in Love with Yourself?

3 Ways to See Yourself Differently

This is not a narcissist manifesto. If it was, the topic would be 3 Ways to Make Other People Compliment You More on your Sculpted Body or Finding 10 Ways to Make Yourself Even More Appealing on Social Media (if that is even possible). Thankfully, this is not. This post is about looking at yourself in a different light. A positive light.

For many of us it is very difficult to feel the love from, and for, ourselves. We are often quick to criticize ourselves and very slow in acknowledging what we do well. Looking at ourselves in a positive light can be very difficult. Here are three ways to see yourself differently.

First, pull out your resume and show it to an impartial friend or colleague.

Focus on your accomplishments, degrees, years of service, writing, creating, and any other awesome skills you have. These are things that you have learned, cultivated, and refined. These are your traits and you should cherish them. (And absolutely don’t waste your time on what you haven’t accomplished yet!) We can all whip out a list of things we’ve never done but are certain we want to. Stay with what you’ve done and not what you haven’t.

Second, find something that you wrote, created, or accomplished at any point in your life which shows your flexibility and creativity.

This could be an article you wrote, poetry, a story, photography, artistic creation, a class you took, martial arts, music expression, or a journal you have written for years. Congratulate yourself for finding an expressive side that shows passion and creativity.

Third, start (or continue) that dream or goal that you have put off to the side.

Don’t let it slide by. Whether or not you are successful in starting up whatever it is that you want to do, it will never happen unless you take action. The things that you have listed above show that you are creative, thoughtful, and motivated when you are committed. Go forward without regrets or apologies! The only way that you will liberate yourself from the shouldn’t or can’t is to go forward and see how far you can get. This only happens if you take a step.

What step(s) will you take?

Originally posted for JRNI on Medium April 2018

Published by Coach Carlos Lossada

Certified life coach with over 29 years experience in education, psychology, mentoring, and coaching (soccer). Carlos has a Masters in Counseling Psychology. His passion is helping others find their path to an authentic self.

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